What is Love, Anyway?

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I’ve moved my previous entry to private status for the sake of a positive move forward for that person and me. I really only wrote it because that’s what I do… I write. But I don’t want that single entry to be a constant hindrance to a healthy resolution and move forward with my friend, so while I won’t delete it, I did make it private for my eyes only now.

It’s all good.

And it’s times like these that some of the songs of life become more important and profound than we might have considered before, especially the final stanza…

The song is about how we like to think we are being loving, being loved, but that we not only love with conditions that must be fulfilled, measuring the other person against scripts in our head, but that we also can never truly love someone else enough to resolve everything for them… so it’s a song about acknowledging our conditions so that we can rise above them and allow room for all of it, the spectrum of choices and behaviors and insecurities.

howard jones

I love you whether or not you love me
I love you even if you think that I don’t
Sometimes I find you doubt my love for you, but I dont mind
Why should I mind, why should I mind

What is love anyway
does anybody love anybody anyway
What is love anyway
does anybody love anybody anyway

Can anybody love anyone so much that they will never fear
Never worry, never be sad
The answer is they cannot love this much, nobody can
This is why I dont mind you doubting

And maybe love is letting people be just what they want to be
The door always must be left unlocked
To love when circumstance may lead someone away from you
And not to spend the time just doubting

2 thoughts on “What is Love, Anyway?”

  1. I remember this song from when I was in high school — I never realized it was so wise and philosophical. Lately I have been re-discovering another 80s band, Scritti Politti — another band that has so much more going on, both lyrically and musically, than I was able to perceive as a teenager!

    1. Hey Chiara! Nice to see you here!

      Yeah, Howard Jones is a muse, a total inspiration of mine. His lyrics are amazing, and very old soul. I mean, his first album was titled “Humans Lib” and it’s all about breaking free from the chains of self- and societal impositions. Beautiful. Of course, he’s also a animal rights activist and a serious philosopher of Eastern teachings such as Buddhism.

      And OMG, I love Scritti Politti!

      I have both HoJo’s and Scritti Politti’s stuff all the way through to the current stuff. They are SO good.

      follow @CocteauBoy on twitter

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